Wonderful Life
This is a difficult entry for me to write for many reasons. The main reason being that this is the most personal thing I could ever share; however, I believe sharing our struggles with each other could potentially make all the difference.
I recently came across Please Don't Jump, a Facebook page created in the virtual effort to save a life. A postcard was submitted to PostSecret from an anonymous sender in San Francisco who was/is contemplating jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge. Having considered jumping myself several times before, I know firsthand the overwhelming feeling of hopelessness can be unbearable. The first time I attempted suicide was at 14 after being bullied.
Whether or not you know someone who you suspect to be suicidal, this campaign is a great reminder to be ready and able to help a friend or a stranger in need. You never know what someone's situation might be or what demons they may be struggling with. Suicidal people are often adept at hiding their real feelings and suffer in silence, as was, and sometimes still is, the case for me.
Start liking Please Don't Jump here.
NASTY GAL SLASHED TUNIC, SANDRO LEGGINGS, CONVERSE SHOES, MICHAEL KORS WATCH, CC SKYE BRACELETS
P.S. Since this is supposed to be a fashion blog, here's an outfit.
XOXO,
65 comments:
Very cute outfit! I love that top :)
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I'm so glad you overcame these feelings. I wish more people would reach out, maybe they'd come to the realization that there's a way through it and many people have been in that situation before. COmmunication is so underrated.
Cute outfit! I think a lot of people have been there. I am liking right now.
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I' m happy to see your shoes!!! I love the all star!
S.
I applaud you for being som brave and sharing this post! It will help someone.
Inspiring! Thanks for sharing your experience and reminding us how precious life is. And your outfit is as inspiring as your post. Nice to see you sporting (no pun intended!) a pair of chucks :D
have a great Thanksgiving, Lily!
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Loveeeeeee your tunic <3
nice look!
LOVE YOUR OUTFIT!!
XOXO
I'm glad you have overcame the bullies, and possibly whatever else that suppressed you during those dark times. I've read every 16 minutes someone is committing suicide in America. That's an alarming rate, and we, as citizens, should stand up and go up against this epidemic by any means necessary, in order to alleviate these teens negative thoughts, and have them seek professional help.
I completely understand that this is more of a fashion blog than an informative one, however, it fascinates me that even with this particular blog post, people seem more in tune w/ what you have on, and not the words you speak/type. Sad times, indeed.
It's clear some people don't read and just look at pretty pictures. I hate that!
As someone who has struggled with anxiety and mild depression for most of my adult life, I still don't have an answer on what's the best way to deal with things. What I've learned is that bad things often pass and something great is usually just around the corner. Some of us are lucky enough to have people in our lives that make it easier for us to cope during the tough times.
On to the outfit: I love all the Sandro stuff you've been wearing lately. All from The Bay? I gotta visit you sometime!
Beautiful post. Thank you for sharing and helping to raise awareness. It's a dark path to walk, and even harder to turn away from. Could not have done it on my own. Thanks!
THANK YOU for writing this post. in the recent weeks i have heard of some many people my age taking their life because they felt there was no way out. i wont take it to a personal life but i will say i can relate!!!! thank you for sharing this =)
inside n out wow ur beautiful.
i like this you even with the chucks its so chic!
XX
Vi from Cali
There has been many a time in my (to others) short life where I've sat with my head in my hands, cried and felt like giving up on life, and when you feel that sensation you know you're at your rock bottom, I was bullied terribly throughout my childhood, but now it is me that can pity those people because of the person I am turning out to be, although there has been an impact on my life and effect the relationships I have. Thankyou for this post, it is one I understand and can relate to, I hope you are well and continue doing what you're doing because you're beautiful and your blog is fabulous lovely!
*following your lovely blog*
Eda x
I'm glad you didn't let the bullies win, I only wish there were more people like you who would use their influence amongst the online community in the positive way that you have.
You are a shining example of what one can be when they overcome hardships. Thank you for your inspiring words. Best wishes :)
Roxi xx
i think your incredibly brave for posting something so personal.. personally i can't imagine that you've been bullied.. and why the heck would they? ur such an inspiring person really! but then again i can only judge from ur blog. i know you see ur blog as a fashion blog.. but ur on my inspiration list because of you being you.. for me your blog is more a lifestyle/personal blog and it's not all about the outfits ofcourse your style is amazing but i keep coming back for what you have to say as well.. and not many can do that in this blogosphere..i hope your doing well, really! xoxo
bullied? nooooo :(
girl, we need to have a lunch date soon. im so sorry for today i already booked it with my 2 other friends.
we can go on the 22nd? :)
love you! xx
You are beautiful inside and out Lily! I'll never understand how human beings can be so cruel. We just need to be more kind and loving! Big hug to you for being so real!!!
I'm so glad you overcame your feelings, even though one might always still struggle with that.
I'm happy you're here. Really.
THanks for sharing. Very brave.
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you are so inspirational. Your sister is most definitely looking down and smiling at you right now!!x
thank you for opening up<3.
You've inspired me.
xx,
Christina
www.profreshstyle.com
I think that was so courageous of you and I commend you for sharing something so personal and sensative wih us...this post will definalty help others out there that feel as though there is no light at the end of the tunnel...I am glad that you were not successful at your attempt...you were meant to remind us that things do get better and there is hope...as I write this comment I find myself getting choke up...i am truly touch by this post and again thank you for sharing this with us.
I love this post. I can definitely relate to wanting to commit suicide because I have felt that way plenty of times. But I have to always realize that its never worth it because life is SO precious. Thank you for the reassurance.
xoxo Debby
You look super cute but most importantly your message is so true!! I think at some point we've all been bullied but it doesnt last forever and it does get better!!
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Thank you for being sincere. I love your blog and check often for updates and today's post was honest and refreshing. You're inspiring.
-Ashley
Thank you for this post. It was my friend's two year death anniversary on October 2nd, so this really reminds me of her. I'm glad you were able to overcome it and share. xoxo.
The fact that you're able to share this with all of your many readers is so impressive on so many levels. I admire that you can put yourself out there for for vulnerability... for the sake of letting others know they're not alone is the most meaningful way you can contribute to those who are in a position you once were. Like we've said before - sometimes the strongest looking ones are the ones who die inside silently in the comfort of their own home.
I'm positive a lot of younger kids look up to how strong, badass & polished you are all the time. But you sharing this secret shows them that you are not just some brainless fashion-robot. You're a kind person with a big heart that deserves to love... and be loved. If I haven't said it before, I will say it again. You're amazing.
xo,
kz
Situations like these happen all the time yet people are so unaware of what help they can get.
I went through the same stuff in grade six. I didn't exactly get bullied but people used to tease me and talk shit behind my back. Honestly, I thought of doing stupid things to myself, but everytime I'd stop because I knew my mom would be devasted. It would've been selfish for me if I had gone through with the attempt as I'd be hurting more than myself, but my whole family as well.
Depending on how you perceive the situation, you can always find something positive that comes along with it. I truly believe that no matter how difficult the situation may be, there will always be a resolution. But in order for things to get resolved, you must toughen up first. Sure, you may have the option to hurt yourself or dwell upon the situation, but why no get yourself up and move forward?
I'm a really stubborn person, so I don't like to lose. I managed to get out of all the hardships because I don't want those asshole of bullies to get what they want out of me. If someones going to get the last say, it'd be me. Back then I never learned to stand up for myself, but in the last few years, I've learned lots. Yeah, I know some people think I'm a bitch now, but standing up for myself, saying what I feel, and talking back does not make me a bitch. Those who let people step all over them or let others put them down don't know what's coming for them. I know if I had not turned into the person I am today, I'd still be getting taken advantage of.
At the end of the day, I look back at the people who once bullied me as motivation. I thrive off of the hate. Cool, they don't like me? Well then I'm going to work twice as hard to be better than them. I thank them for pushing me. Haha on a side note, those people have now turned out to be the biggest failures ever. Karma is a bitch.
Lily, you're a strong girl. To be able to persevere in times of hardship just proves how far you've come along and how far you're going to get in life. You've got an inspiring blog, great fashion sense, many people who support you, a great place to live, and most importantly a loving family. I bet those bullies don't have half of what you got. What hits you hard is only going to make you stronger. If you had hurt yourself back then, where the hell would I get my dose of "Bleed for Fashion?" Thank god you're here, because I don't want no Juicy wearing loser to take over the internet. If there was no Lily, there would be one less fashionable woman. That would result in the increased ratio of badly dress people to well dressed people.
You're probably going to meet more assholes in the future, but all you have to do is flip them off and walk away. You have the decision to choose who you want in your life.
I think I just wrote a whole essay as a comment. Again. I always do this when commenting on your posts. Haha.
Being strong and successful is the best revenge. Enjoy the weekend!
Lianna
www.thesavvyfrugalista.com
Nice post. I like your blog. I am impressed. Keep it up.
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you look so pretty!
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lily, i swear i love you before i even met you. your honest words. enough said. <3
Amazing how many people don't actually READ posts. There's so much more to who we are than how we look - I'm glad you have the guts to share these things. The more we admit, the more real we become on the web, and the more valuable. Thank you.
i can not begin to articulate how i feel but all i can say is thank you for being genuine and honest.
no fake sympathy but raw empathy.
p.s your ysl shoe collection is to die for.
Even on the days when you are feeling casual you still end up looking so chic! You make fashion seem so easy! Everyday is a catwalk and I love it to pieces! You are such an inspiration lily! :)
This was such a personal post. Thanks for sharing, I'm very glad you overcame those horrible feelings of hopelessness. And once again, I love your outfit.
-Jacquelyn
cool sweater dear! <3
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so good. i commend you for being vulnerable and real.
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congratulations!!!
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Looking at your life now I would have never thought you were someone who was once pushed to the brink of wanting to end your life. You are a strong, young, beautiful woman Lily. It is good to bring such issues up, that's what I love about your blog. You keep it real.
you are such a strong beautiful woman & I hope you always remember that
Love how you keep your posts down to earth in comparison w/ others.
keep it up! =)
Your writing is amazing Lily. I agree completely, we should all share a little something personal and it makes the world of a difference. If we all made the conscious effort to wonder how our friend was doing, and how a sibling was doing, we could stop something as awful as this. Thank you for this. You're absolutely beautiful inside and out.
You are not alone. Thank you for acknowledging that. Keep on blogging baby, you are beautiful.
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I hope that you don't mind, but i'm going to totally disregard the outfit this time and say what you wrote was stunningly beautiful. It's so cool of you to be vunerable (sharing that story) and raise awareness to something else besides fashion/ something someone is sponsoring.
cute post
Pushed the like button the moment I had read your post.
The post was ... no words to write.
You look stunnning, the colour of your sweater is perfect to your skin tone
that slouchy dusky-pink sweater is so cute!
You are a beautiful person for writing this. Thank you.
thanks for sharing, lily. you're not just stylish; you're inspiring. :)
xx,
kat
I just want to say I think you are so courageous for putting yourself out there and sharing yourself with others. I know it's a very personal and sensitive topic but it's good that you can use your own life experience to reach out to others, and let them know they're not alone. You have a beautiful soul, Lily. And in all the years I have known you, you are one of the strongest person I know. You are a fighter and I'm so very proud of you for overcoming your struggles and pressing on in life. You are loved, and no matter what you're going through in life, you will always have me as a friend.
Love always,
Lam
j'adore ta tunique, et la couleur te vas très bien
Brave lass. I know how the loneliness feels. I never actually seriously considered jumping off the proverbial bridge, but I did often wonder if it would be easier to end it all. Then maybe the people who were mean would feel sorry, the people who didn't notice me would do so, etc etc. But of course, you wouldn't be around to see it, and most likely they wouldn't know it was about them, and you'd destroy the lives of all the people who did care. Didn't someone say something along the lines of living well is the best revenge? It's getting me by right now. Stay strong my dear, and I continue to love your hair.
Lily,
Such an inspirational post. You never know how many lives you may have helped by being this strong and voicing your personal story.
It takes a very brave soul to expose yourself like this and I feel like this post has come at a critical time when you look at what's going on with today's society...
xxo
M
http://smallcity-bigstyle.blogspot.com/
I know this is what you tweeted about.
I'm sorry you were a victim of bullying when you were younger. And while it's terrible and equally appalling that so many stories of children and young adults being bullied is coming to the fore in the Media, I think it's important that stories like them are broadcast and made an important issue to tackle in society. I was bullied when I was 13 and 14, in 8th grade, by girls who used to be good friends of mine only months before. They created elaborate schemes and emotional games to pull me apart and threatened me in uncrowded gym locker rooms... it was a horrendous experience. I mean, 13, 14, we're KIDS. FUCKING KIDS.
I'm so glad you never went through with it, and that you are here today, bringing awareness and advocating hope and change.
I've contemplated suicide (for other reasons than bullying), and honestly, looking back, it's saying "I can't imagine life ever being better than this--I can't imagine a life that is actually good and worth living." And that's even sadder.
People need to be more aware of emotional turmoil that teens can become victim to, and help spread messages of hope.
Thanks for posting this.
PS. "Oh my god, I like your outfit!!"
XX.
Mae Lu, thereafterish.
Thank You for not holding back on sharing your pain and deciding to open up and help someone else
~ Sending Fashion Hugs and Air Kisses~
PS,ur skin is GORGEOUS
Wow dear, you have such a great style! Loving it :)
Maybe you would like to exange links with me? Let me know...
Kisses!
Lara
We love that you support this campaign. We're currently looking into it and excited to start supporting ourselves.
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I just discovered your blog and I love it, also what you write! I am following you now!
bisous,
mia
I always loved your blog for your fashion. My favorite blog, really.
The way you write, the things you put together and...the "I don't care what anybody else thinks" confidence that I received from you.
I remember showing my friend your blog and telling her: "Wow, she is so young, smart, beautiful, even has her own glam apartment and all the shoes, handbags, apparel etc we want. I'd love to be her". Then thinking, "she must be very happy, unlike me".
I don't want this to be long because I have to admit, I'm uncomfortable sharing but I feel that I could relate, which is rare. Perhaps it is because I am at a similar age as you, or I don't even know where to get at. I know, to everyone else I look like the "typical asian girl" whose happy with all my materialistic things - it is a common "look" here in Toronto.
Me: Same, 14 years old; bullied and my first attempt. Till this day, things hurt just as much...sometimes. Up and Down.
I just want you to know that it helped me, a lot to see your courage to share and post this. It made me feel not so alone (we all know we are not alone, but it is that feeling), as I did hours ago.
Hey there,
It's me your new haterade. As you know before I don't avidly read your blog but my friend said u posted something about penis butter which made me LMAO, and so I googled your blog and this came up as one of the links.
In any case you won me over, im a hater turned lover.
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