Alone But Not Lonely
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A year later this video resonates with me still. Fact: I often eat out and watch movies alone. I feel slightly odd and isolated at first, but then I realize I'm my own best company. If you're reading this, you may be crinkling your face either in disgust or bewilderment; however, contrary to what most people think, I actually enjoy my solitude. This doesn't necessarily mean I don't enjoy laying next to that special someone in bed. I have few close friends, many acquaintances and a large social network, but when it comes down to the nitty gritty, it's just me, myself and I (thanks, Beyoncé).
My best friend, Carrie, once wrote: "It's only when you are alone, you are able to truly be yourself. There's no one around to impress. There's no explaining or misunderstanding. There's no pretense. No facade. No secret. Just you in your most raw and vulnerable state. You can think your thoughts. You can feel your feelings. You can be you by just being you. Of course not everyone can do this with the same ease and confidence as those who are have master the skill of being alone, but then those who are comfortable and secure in their own solitude truly knows what it means to have a relationship with themselves."
Being alone and being lonely are two completely different things. It's only when you finally accept even just the possibility of being alone, you will never be lonely again.
XOXO,
My best friend, Carrie, once wrote: "It's only when you are alone, you are able to truly be yourself. There's no one around to impress. There's no explaining or misunderstanding. There's no pretense. No facade. No secret. Just you in your most raw and vulnerable state. You can think your thoughts. You can feel your feelings. You can be you by just being you. Of course not everyone can do this with the same ease and confidence as those who are have master the skill of being alone, but then those who are comfortable and secure in their own solitude truly knows what it means to have a relationship with themselves."
Being alone and being lonely are two completely different things. It's only when you finally accept even just the possibility of being alone, you will never be lonely again.
XOXO,
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Damn girl, your words are like therapy even if they are about 2 sentences of ranting or anything at all. That's one of the reasons I love your blog; quality over quantity. Sometimes I feel like people are terrified of being alone but its a good thing to know that you embrace it. And awesome outfit!
Your cropped moto jacket is super chic! Solitude can be gratifying at times. You learn more about yourself and you do get the additional freedom to discover what you've always wanted to. You will then get to share and enjoy these personal truths when you do eventually meet that special someone.
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I'd just like to say a) your bow is so adorable .. tried this look out and look absolutely silly and b) you have a way with your words. There so much truth and rawness to them. Your words truly touch people. AMAZING.
This reminds me so much of myself last year...learning to have a relationship with myself. It is okay to be alone and that we do not need to run in a pack to feel a sense of security. We will always have our high highs and our low lows, but in the end, we only can rely on ourselves to make sense of things.
But of course, I always enjoy your company, Lily <3 LOVE YOU!
Love this Lil.
continue to be the beautiful strong woman i know and love.
xox
it's so sweet how personal you are :))) i am almost always alone. i even party by myself (sometimes) . i find it strange that people don't go to the movies alone more often. i understand it's a visual, but to me it's like reading a book and we always do that alone :))) great outfit, btw!
I love what you write, and I wholeheartedly agree. I love my own company even though I don't do enough things alone. Maybe it's a Taurus thing?
nothing beats a good leather jacket, great job girl
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I love your blog. You have a awesome sense of style :)
XOX
Truly meaningful words, Lily.
"It's only when you finally accept even just the possibility of being alone, you will never be lonely again."
Can't agree with you more on that.
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This is a beautiful post, in more ways than one. I never understood why there was a negative association with loneliness. I think the sooner people embrace their own solitude, the sooner they realize that sometimes the only person we ever need is ourselves. Thanks for this, Lily.
Hey I just love everything about you , u'v got free spirit , swagg and timeless style.....just keep on going.
Great outfit! Love your jacket, your hoses and your jeans! xxx
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I love your T-shirt! Sipmle but yet classy!
You know, I was thinking about loneliness thousand times and I formed my opinion.
In fact you have a lot a lot of people who are waiting for you, are always ready to accept you, take care, say good word, to become a support.
But you feel lonely just because one person doesn't care where are you, how are you and so on.
I felt in that way many times. Thousand, million times.
And BTW, watching movies alone is wonderful. Nobody interrupts you, nobody asks you for a ticket to go to the WC. Just you, movie and some food.
So true. Whether I've been in a relationship or not, throughout my life, I've always striven for "me time." I use to travel by myself, to the horror of my parents, and it was the best therapy. It helped me figure out who I was, who I wanted to be, and how to do it. I highly recommend it.
Lovely post. Can't wait to read more about your personal journey if you wish to share it on your blog.
There's nothing wrong with being alone.
Also, I have no friends, and it doesn't bother me.
I love your jacket!
I definitely think being alone is such a vital part of getting to know yourself and of recharging. I'd say I'm borderline hyper-social and yet I still take a few nights a week to myself and I just do whatever I'd like...take myself out for coffee, sit in a park and read, etc. I find it strange that so many people seem to be scared of "alone-time", though it hardly surprises me that you're not one of those people at all! I find people who like themselves the best and are most secure tend to easily enjoy time alone.
Anyway, aside from that I love this look! I've been coveting that scarf for so long but it slips all over my head whenever I try it on. You look beautiful as per usual :)
Hope you had a great weekend lovely
Alex xoxo
I agree with you wholeheartedly :-)
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First off love the jacket...I love this personal message, it resonate with me so much at this point in my life...nice post
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Love that! Great words! And that jacket is to die for!! XO Rebecca
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Great words and style!!!! I absolutely agree...
WELL SAID and love the outfit! Super cute blog. Now following you! :)
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Yup!! You are so right about being alone and being lonely, some people dont know the difference.
Judith
Loving the colour palette! Well, you look perfect, nothing new there :)
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Amen babe, truest words I've ever read. I completely agree.
So great!I love your style!!
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Lovee your moto jacket, so cute!!
and you are an amazing writer♡♡
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I like your style, your blog, good job :)
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love your jacket!
Monia
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Fantastic outfit!
S.
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Totally awesome post, I love the pink color! She looks are Very beautiful and color combination very superb. I am pleased with it. Thanks for sharing!
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At the end of the day, the person you have to live with is yourself. Thanks for sharing this - I've been wanting to venture out and start not necessarily being lonely and wandering, but just alone.
I rarely comment on blogs or read much but this post (along with a few others) caught my eye. I feel that to some extent I understand your emotions and the words you relay. I've gone through my own hell and back. Every so often I continue to fight my demons but through it all, learning to be on my own and revel in who I am is what has grounded me. I truly understand what it means to lose yourself and I made the past year a time where I focused on myself and learning how to be happy on my own. I pushed myself to be the greatest possible person I could be and I continue to do that so that I can be stronger than I was yesterday. I have grown in ways you could not imagine and the way I view life has changed dramatically. Anyway, I went through my FB to dig up a quote I felt summed up what you were trying to relay.
“Language... has created the word "loneliness" to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word "solitude" to express the glory of being alone.” - Paul Tillich
Also, while going through my quotes I found this as well.
"There's power in encountering a painful memory from the past armed with the knowledge of the present."
Thought it could benefit you somehow. Goodluck with everything.
Erica
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Damn girl, another post that I read in one breath. Of course, I can totally relate to you and thank god, there are more of us :)
xx
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