Simple Living
H&M FAUX FUR JACKET, MACKAGE MOTORCYCLE JACKET, LOFT 82 TUNIC, WILFRED FREE FAUX LEATHER LEGGINGS, CHLOÉ SHOES, GUCCI HAT, CHANEL BAG
My boyfriend and I go to Whistler every other month and always have a wonderful time, and this time was no exception. We arrived there on Saturday and enjoyed everything Whistler Village had to offer. On Sunday we went on the Cruiser Snowmobile Tour at Cougar Mountain, where we rode through beautiful terrain on backcountry trails. We had so much fun, and I'm proud to say I didn't tip over or crash. I only got bruises on my legs because I put my weight on the front of the machine rather than the back (a lesson learned for next time!). For photos, check out my Instagram.
Even though the weekend's over, I'm grateful to have this time off. One of the best feelings is going to bed after an eventful day, knowing you don't have to go into work the next day. This Friday I'm doing my first ever boudoir shoot, just in time for Valentine's Day. Much to my boyfriend's dismay, I'll be posting the photos here on my blog so stay tuned.
In sadder news, last week I received word that my brother-in-law's dad passed away. My brother-in-law's understandably upset. Me, on the other hand, isn't as affected as one may think. Truth be told, I'm numb when it comes to deaths. Maybe it's because it doesn't sink in quick enough to matter, and when it finally does, it's been too long for the reaction to be the same. Or maybe it's because compared to my sister, who passed away on July 29th, 2007, they're not as important. Perhaps I'm toosmart realistic to know that shit like this happens every day; it's just a bitch when it becomes personal and it happens to you. Life is simple, but we insist on making it complicated.
PHOTOS BY REZ (EDITED BY TESSA OF A MILE IN HER HEELS)
XOXO,
Even though the weekend's over, I'm grateful to have this time off. One of the best feelings is going to bed after an eventful day, knowing you don't have to go into work the next day. This Friday I'm doing my first ever boudoir shoot, just in time for Valentine's Day. Much to my boyfriend's dismay, I'll be posting the photos here on my blog so stay tuned.
In sadder news, last week I received word that my brother-in-law's dad passed away. My brother-in-law's understandably upset. Me, on the other hand, isn't as affected as one may think. Truth be told, I'm numb when it comes to deaths. Maybe it's because it doesn't sink in quick enough to matter, and when it finally does, it's been too long for the reaction to be the same. Or maybe it's because compared to my sister, who passed away on July 29th, 2007, they're not as important. Perhaps I'm too
PHOTOS BY REZ (EDITED BY TESSA OF A MILE IN HER HEELS)
XOXO,
Point Taken
CLUB MONACO SWEATER JACKET, AFTER PAINS TANK TOP, RAG & BONE/JEAN JEANS, VALENTINO SHOES, T.BABATON HAT
I have work at 4:45am tomorrow and should be sleeping. Point form it is:
- I'm happy to report that I'm recovered enough from the flu to resume taking photos. Look how stylish I am, I'm wearing a tank top and jeans! Side note: I'll never get over how narcissistic and silly outfit posts make me feel.
- I'm also wearing my new Dior Addict Extreme 987 Black Tie lipstick by Christian Dior. So hot right now (insert Mugatu voice).
- Now that our holiday period has come to a close for 2012, I'm excited to unwind and take time off from work (aka a staycation) for 8 days starting next Saturday. My boyfriend and I are going to Whistler that weekend, and we're going snowmobiling for the first time. Wish us luck!
- Seeing older couples who are still madly in love is one of my favorite things.
- Life is too short to waste it on those who don't make your heart smile.
- That is all. Goodnight, friends.
I'm Still Here
As I write this blog post, I'm fighting a terrible fever, cough and stuffy nose. This means you'll have to wait until next week for an outfit post, hopefully when I'm no longer an incubus of viral plague.
In the meantime, I wanted to share 10 Good Reminders for Stressful Times. This is exactly what I needed to read right now.
1. Happiness is never constant, and it's not supposed to be. You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life. To believe that you can reach a state of happiness and stay there forever, is like the tide believing she can reach for the shoreline and remain there forever; or like a fruit tree believing that if she only holds on tighter, she can keep her fruit from dropping to the ground. Happiness is simply a series of moments that come and go and add sweetness to our lives. Learn to accept this, and the more happy moments you will have.
2. Failures are temporary situations that teach us necessary lessons. Life's best lessons are usually learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. So yes, you will fail sometimes. The faster you accept this, the faster you can get on with being brilliant. You'll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. So get out there and try! Either you succeed or you learn a vital lesson. Win – Win.
3. Even if you can't see it now, you are making progress. You may not be where you want to be yet, but if you think about it, you're no longer where you once were either. You have good reason to believe that you can trust yourself going forward. Not because you've always made the right choices, but because you survived the bad ones, and taken small steps in the right direction. So cry for a moment if you have to, and get it out of your system. Crying doesn't indicate that you're weak; since birth, it has always been a sign that you’re alive and full of potential. Once you're done, keep going! You're undoubtedly getting closer to where you want to be.
4. How you feel when you're stressed is not a true measure of reality. Just because you're afraid, doesn't mean you're in danger. Just because you feel alone, doesn't mean nobody loves you. Just because you think you might fail, doesn't mean you will. Look beyond your doubts and keep searching for the truth. Be aware of your mental self-talk. We all talk silently to ourselves in our heads, but we aren't always conscious of what we're saying or how it's affecting us. The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful. Listen to your self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. The sun is always shining on some part of your life. Sometimes you just have to forget how you feel, remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward.
5. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. You can learn great things from your failures and mistakes when you aren't busy denying them. If you've been asking the same questions for months or even years, yet are still stuck, it's probably not that you haven't been given the answers, but that you don't like the answers you were given. It takes a lot of courage to admit that something needs to change, and a lot more courage still, to accept the responsibility for actually changing it. The most important step forward is taking the first step. The simple act of getting started and doing something will give you the momentum you need, and soon you'll find yourself in a positive spiral of positive changes, one building on the other.
6. You are not what happened to you in the past. No matter how chaotic the past has been, the future is a clean, fresh, wide open slate. You are not your past habits. You are not your past failures. You are not how others have at one time treated you. You are only who you think you are right now in this moment. You are only what you do right now in this moment.
7. Not getting what you want can be a blessing. Not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of good luck, because it forces you reevaluate things, opening new doors to opportunities and information you would have otherwise overlooked. Remember, some things in life fall apart so that better things can fall together.
8. Being a 'work in progress' is a great state to be in. Stop berating yourself for being a work in progress. Start embracing it! Because being a work in progress doesn’t mean you’re not good enough today; it means you want a better tomorrow, and you wish to love yourself completely, so you can live your life fully. It means you're determined to heal your heart, expand your mind and cultivate the gifts you know you’re meant to share. May we all be works in progress forever, and celebrate the fact that we are!
9. Nobody else can do it for you. Keep doing what you know in your heart is right for YOU. Let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions louder than your words. Live by choice, not by chance. Make changes, not excuses. Be motivated, not manipulated. Work to excel, not compete. Choose to listen to your inner voice, not the jumbled opinions of everyone else. It's your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.
10. Life is not easy, but it's worth it. If you expect it to be, you will perpetually disappoint yourself. Achieving anything worthwhile in life takes effort. So start every morning ready to run farther than you did yesterday and fight harder than you ever have before. Above all, make sure you properly align your efforts with your goals. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.
XOXO,
In the meantime, I wanted to share 10 Good Reminders for Stressful Times. This is exactly what I needed to read right now.
1. Happiness is never constant, and it's not supposed to be. You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life. To believe that you can reach a state of happiness and stay there forever, is like the tide believing she can reach for the shoreline and remain there forever; or like a fruit tree believing that if she only holds on tighter, she can keep her fruit from dropping to the ground. Happiness is simply a series of moments that come and go and add sweetness to our lives. Learn to accept this, and the more happy moments you will have.
2. Failures are temporary situations that teach us necessary lessons. Life's best lessons are usually learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. So yes, you will fail sometimes. The faster you accept this, the faster you can get on with being brilliant. You'll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. So get out there and try! Either you succeed or you learn a vital lesson. Win – Win.
3. Even if you can't see it now, you are making progress. You may not be where you want to be yet, but if you think about it, you're no longer where you once were either. You have good reason to believe that you can trust yourself going forward. Not because you've always made the right choices, but because you survived the bad ones, and taken small steps in the right direction. So cry for a moment if you have to, and get it out of your system. Crying doesn't indicate that you're weak; since birth, it has always been a sign that you’re alive and full of potential. Once you're done, keep going! You're undoubtedly getting closer to where you want to be.
4. How you feel when you're stressed is not a true measure of reality. Just because you're afraid, doesn't mean you're in danger. Just because you feel alone, doesn't mean nobody loves you. Just because you think you might fail, doesn't mean you will. Look beyond your doubts and keep searching for the truth. Be aware of your mental self-talk. We all talk silently to ourselves in our heads, but we aren't always conscious of what we're saying or how it's affecting us. The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful. Listen to your self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. The sun is always shining on some part of your life. Sometimes you just have to forget how you feel, remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward.
5. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. You can learn great things from your failures and mistakes when you aren't busy denying them. If you've been asking the same questions for months or even years, yet are still stuck, it's probably not that you haven't been given the answers, but that you don't like the answers you were given. It takes a lot of courage to admit that something needs to change, and a lot more courage still, to accept the responsibility for actually changing it. The most important step forward is taking the first step. The simple act of getting started and doing something will give you the momentum you need, and soon you'll find yourself in a positive spiral of positive changes, one building on the other.
6. You are not what happened to you in the past. No matter how chaotic the past has been, the future is a clean, fresh, wide open slate. You are not your past habits. You are not your past failures. You are not how others have at one time treated you. You are only who you think you are right now in this moment. You are only what you do right now in this moment.
7. Not getting what you want can be a blessing. Not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of good luck, because it forces you reevaluate things, opening new doors to opportunities and information you would have otherwise overlooked. Remember, some things in life fall apart so that better things can fall together.
8. Being a 'work in progress' is a great state to be in. Stop berating yourself for being a work in progress. Start embracing it! Because being a work in progress doesn’t mean you’re not good enough today; it means you want a better tomorrow, and you wish to love yourself completely, so you can live your life fully. It means you're determined to heal your heart, expand your mind and cultivate the gifts you know you’re meant to share. May we all be works in progress forever, and celebrate the fact that we are!
9. Nobody else can do it for you. Keep doing what you know in your heart is right for YOU. Let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions louder than your words. Live by choice, not by chance. Make changes, not excuses. Be motivated, not manipulated. Work to excel, not compete. Choose to listen to your inner voice, not the jumbled opinions of everyone else. It's your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.
10. Life is not easy, but it's worth it. If you expect it to be, you will perpetually disappoint yourself. Achieving anything worthwhile in life takes effort. So start every morning ready to run farther than you did yesterday and fight harder than you ever have before. Above all, make sure you properly align your efforts with your goals. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.
XOXO,
Quarterlife Crisis
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Along with the New Year comes the realization that I'm going to be turning 25 in a couple of months. I recently came across this book and thought I'd share this excerpt:
"Jim, the neighbor who lives in the three-story colonial down the block, has recently turned 50. You know this because Jim's wife threw him a surprise party about a month ago. You also know this because, since then, Jim has dyed his hair blond, purchased a leather bomber jacket, traded in his Chevy Suburban for a sleek Miata, and ditched the wife for a girlfriend half her size and age.
Yet, aside from the local ladies' group's sympathetic clucks for the scorned wife, few neighbors are surprised at Jim's instant lifestyle change. Instead, they nod their heads understandingly. "Oh, Jim," they say. "He's just going through a midlife crisis. Everyone goes through it." Friends, colleagues and family members excuse his weird behavior as an inevitable effect of reaching this particular stage of life. Like millions of other middle-aged people, Jim has reached a period during which he believes he must ponder the direction of his life—and then alter it.
Chances are, if you're reading this book, you're not Jim. You know this because you can't afford a leather bomber jacket, you drive your parents' Volvo (if you drive a car at all), and, regardless of your gender, you would happily marry Jim's wife if she gets to keep the house. But Jim's midlife crisis is relevant to you nonetheless, because it is currently the only age-related crisis that is widely recognized as a common, inevitable part of life. This is pertinent because, despite all of the attention lavished on the midlife crisis, despite the hundreds of books, movies, and magazine articles dedicated to explaining the sometimes traumatic transition through middle age and the ways to cope with it, the midlife crisis is not the only age-related crisis that we experience. As Yoda whispered to Luke Skywalker, "There is another."
This other crisis can be just as, if not more, devastating than the midlife crisis. It can throw someone's life into chaotic disarray or paralyze it completely. It may be the single most concentrated period during which individuals relentlessly question their future and how it will follow the events of their past. It covers the interval that encompasses the transition from the academic world to the "real" world—an age group that can range from late adolescence to the mid-thirties but is usually most intense in twentysomethings. It is what we call the quarterlife crisis, and it is a real phenomenon." — Alexandra Robbins & Abby Wilner, Quarterlife Crisis: The Unique Challenges of Life in Your Twenties
I feel like I've been having a quarterlife crisis for years now, where nothing is wrong and everything is wrong at the same time. They say sometimes the heart doesn't know what it wants until it finds what it wants. I say my life would be so much easier if my heart would just do what my head tells it to.
PHOTOS BY REZ (EDITED BY TESSA OF A MILE IN HER HEELS)
XOXO,
"Jim, the neighbor who lives in the three-story colonial down the block, has recently turned 50. You know this because Jim's wife threw him a surprise party about a month ago. You also know this because, since then, Jim has dyed his hair blond, purchased a leather bomber jacket, traded in his Chevy Suburban for a sleek Miata, and ditched the wife for a girlfriend half her size and age.
Yet, aside from the local ladies' group's sympathetic clucks for the scorned wife, few neighbors are surprised at Jim's instant lifestyle change. Instead, they nod their heads understandingly. "Oh, Jim," they say. "He's just going through a midlife crisis. Everyone goes through it." Friends, colleagues and family members excuse his weird behavior as an inevitable effect of reaching this particular stage of life. Like millions of other middle-aged people, Jim has reached a period during which he believes he must ponder the direction of his life—and then alter it.
Chances are, if you're reading this book, you're not Jim. You know this because you can't afford a leather bomber jacket, you drive your parents' Volvo (if you drive a car at all), and, regardless of your gender, you would happily marry Jim's wife if she gets to keep the house. But Jim's midlife crisis is relevant to you nonetheless, because it is currently the only age-related crisis that is widely recognized as a common, inevitable part of life. This is pertinent because, despite all of the attention lavished on the midlife crisis, despite the hundreds of books, movies, and magazine articles dedicated to explaining the sometimes traumatic transition through middle age and the ways to cope with it, the midlife crisis is not the only age-related crisis that we experience. As Yoda whispered to Luke Skywalker, "There is another."
This other crisis can be just as, if not more, devastating than the midlife crisis. It can throw someone's life into chaotic disarray or paralyze it completely. It may be the single most concentrated period during which individuals relentlessly question their future and how it will follow the events of their past. It covers the interval that encompasses the transition from the academic world to the "real" world—an age group that can range from late adolescence to the mid-thirties but is usually most intense in twentysomethings. It is what we call the quarterlife crisis, and it is a real phenomenon." — Alexandra Robbins & Abby Wilner, Quarterlife Crisis: The Unique Challenges of Life in Your Twenties
I feel like I've been having a quarterlife crisis for years now, where nothing is wrong and everything is wrong at the same time. They say sometimes the heart doesn't know what it wants until it finds what it wants. I say my life would be so much easier if my heart would just do what my head tells it to.
PHOTOS BY REZ (EDITED BY TESSA OF A MILE IN HER HEELS)
XOXO,
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